Welcome to the world
The importance of the prenatal life of the child, where happens the return of a soul from the spiritual world to a new life on earth.
According to R. Steiner’s research in the science of the mind, the still disembodied beings first develop, at what is called the midnight hour of post-mortem, prenatal existence, and the spiritual germ of their physical body. The astral body, the foundation of psychic experience, is added to it during the descent through different spheres (the planetary spheres). Then they are ripe to incarnate and prepare the conception. They are therefore interested in their future parents, families, and ethnic groupings, geographic and cultural regions as well as in the period which corresponds to the biographical tasks they have set out for themselves.
Children have a psychospiritual connection with their mother or both parents long before conception. Long before waiting for each of my children we had already felt their presence, dreamed of them, had like “flashes” when we did not want any more children. Each in a different way, and this knowledge is an important element for their biography.
Then comes the silent fight during the first three months when the mother is sometimes unbalanced physically and psychically while the being in her womb is developing her earthly body. Then the two beings get to know each other and the following months are more harmonious, towards the end of the pregnancy the experience of pregnancy changes again with the corporeality of the mother who signals that it is time to separate.
What a pregnant woman carries in her thoughts, in her feelings, in her actions has as much influence on the development of the child as feeding through the placenta. Often, new areas of perception opens up to the mother through pregnancy. Well before the baby arrives let’s slow down and simplify our pace of life and get back in touch with our faculties, our spirituality and our relationship with Nature.
The day of the birth
The day of the birth is a unique moment when everything must be done so that the mother and the child are safe, surrounded by love, calm and warmth. The stress caused by the external elements can complicate the baby’s exit and require too brutal intervention on the part of midwives or obstetricians. At that moment the “charm” is broken and the magic of childbirth disappears under the flood of information and complicated situations.
The newborn is fully moved by the desire to experience himself through the encounter with the environment that his senses allow him; the experience of his soul is entirely linked to the rhythms of openness to the world and return to oneself, between desire and satisfaction. The sensory perceptions (especially through the eyes and mouth) of the small child induce the members’ imitation and voluntary activity. The child’s sensory perceptions extend to the whole body (movements, attitudes and metabolism).
At birth, the three parts of the body are in very different stages of development. The size of the head already tells us that it is in an advanced stage. The trunk is less developed. The members are still very far from their size and their final shape. The small child is strongly influenced by the perceptions and representations attached to these perceptions, which reach him through the head. When the child imitates, perceptions and representations (from his head) act throughout his body.
Steiner pedagogy therefore pays great attention to the child’s sensory experiences. For some perceptions, it is easy to observe: the child experiments with movement (proprioception) and with balance, to place himself in space; he experiments with touch to discover all kinds of surfaces but especially the limits of his own body. He must also learn to perceive his own body, to “feel” – to perceive and recognize as such feelings of hunger and thirst, tiredness and pain, being hot or cold. This sense for the physical state in which we find ourselves needs to be developed – just like hearing, smell etc. Early childhood plays a vital role in health, inner balance and future initiative
What can we do to offer our child a suitable environment and take care of his senses during his first months?
Stay at home taking care only of yourself and your baby for 30 to 40 days, lying down as much as possible, warm with baby against you (alternating naps with baby, meal, knitting, feeding, change)
This time of resuscitation is known throughout all civilizations and cultures, our society seems to have made it forgotten but we tell you it must be restored! In any case, that’s what we did and we found all my energy after that and even more! Even with severe anemia, we found good health. we took in addition floradix iron and plants and acerola, a vegetable and living diet and regular meals, herbal teas and fresh fruit and vegetable juices. The rhythm of my days alternated feeding, napping, changing babies, knitting, snacking, reading, cuddling and contemplating this little being,
Slow down the pace for the first year!
Beyond these 40 days, it is a full year that you must give yourself! A year where we slow down our pace where we stay at home without taking the car every day. Bring your friends to your house if you miss it, the dad will have to take care of the shopping, the big kids. It is possible and vital for you and your baby. You can take care of cleaning and meals with baby in a sling.
Rhythm and consistency does not mean routine and boring! No, on the contrary, the rhythm is liberating, each thing in its time, do not panic. It’s about being regular in everyday life. And then the nature that changes with the seasons, the activities associated with it, the few unforeseen events and the holidays, all this is enough for the lives of the little ones and big ones. Each family has its own rhythm, its habits. There is no ideal timetable. Also, don’t try to set the pace when your baby is born. Don’t forget to let yourself have this good month of total rest.
Proximal mothering, that is to say sleeping with a baby, carrying a baby (on an arm or in a sling), prolonging his life in your body will be beneficial for him as well as for you. This is a guarantee of reduction of postpartum depression. We kept a lot of my newborn babies against me in a big T-shirt (those from my late pregnancy) against my stomach. We could get up (to go to the bathroom or snack) with them who were sleeping and who thought they were still in my stomach! This contact produces heat, essential for the baby but also for the mother. Protect your breasts from drafts and keep your chest warm. The child needs heat to easily enter his earthly home.
The thermal regulation of the newborn is immature. A baby who is cold with mottled skin, normally the feet should have a pleasant warmth. It is very important to wear a thin beanie inside and wool outside and a summer beanie. The bare head gives off a lot of heat and must be protected from the sun for several months. The forehead should remain uncovered and in contact with the air, the form of crush with the forehead exposed is the best.
The child during his first year is absolutely incapable of protecting himself from an outside world which acts on the extreme sensitivity of his whole being. We can observe the changes in his respiratory and cardiac rhythm while he fully participates in what his surroundings are experiencing. Without making baby live in a hushed atmosphere, we need to review our noise level with a tiny touch. We love music and my grown-ups too, but we have changed our habits a little for the well being of this little baby. Everyone listens to their music with headphones otherwise we wait for a nap to put on music.
During the first months, let’s absolutely protect our baby from outings such as supermarkets, town centers, parties, events, etc. Let’s give him some nice family moments out for a walk by the sea, in the forest, or in the countryside! And this during very early childhood and well beyond.
By observing our baby we can quickly see if the light bothers him or not. After a few weeks the newborn is able to take advantage of the outside light. No full sun of course. The cloudy days of winter are perfect but nothing better than a beautiful blue sky! The blue light of the sky exerts by its nature a structuring effect on the organism of the child, of course during this bath of light the infant must be warmly dressed and wearing a hat, we will however take care to keep the forehead uncovered.
Since the dawn of time babies have been dressed in white then with the arrival of dyers the pastel colors appeared, this common sense is lost. However babies need pastel colors then later we can intensify the colors according to their temperament. Rudolph Steiner draws our attention to the fact that the color perceived directly by sight has on the child a physiological action much less important than the so-called complementary color. In other words if you want to bring more serenity to a hyperactive child put red, the green color created in his soul will have a soothing effect. Blue for a shy person to give him dynamism and warmth of orange.
To welcome a baby, think of its immediate environment, its small spaces where it sleeps, plays and where we start to leave it on the ground. Soft colors, light wood, a few decorative elements as a frame or mobile, beautiful watercolor postcards, green plants, rounded shapes and natural materials. Keeping order is a task without ceases to renew but this contributes to the well-being of everyone, minimizing their material objects, sorting very often. Accumulate nothing unnecessary. Avoid plastic objects as much as possible.
To conclude, we would like to talk about the well-being of parents, their spiritual life, which should be in first place because it is the primary condition for offering their children good foundations and comfort for their whole life!
Caring for a little one is very fulfilling, but very quickly we need to rethink ourselves, our needs, and our former life. Don’t forget yourself! Especially since our “aura”, our etheric forces we share and give them to our child. So let’s find time to refocus to release tensions, to meditate do a little yoga , read, knit, garden, give thanks and be grateful, contemplate, walk, relax with a little one by his side. Every day we take the time to feel how our body, our soul and our mind are doing! Let’s not put our dreams and projects aside.