The task of raising our children becomes more delightful when we have good and positive communication with them, as everyone is forced to respect the home, guidance becomes easier and they have high confidence in themselves and a positive view of them. Today, we offer you basic building principles for good and effective communication with our children.
1- Let your child know that you are always present and interested in the details of his life, are there to help if I need you and ready to listen and advice if requested. Turn off the TV, put the newspaper aside if he wants to talk to you, and don’t let your phone ring, interrupting him. Imagine how he felt if I said: “I’m busy with you now, I can reply later.”
2 – Be sure to discuss his affairs with him privately, away from relatives and friends, so as not to cause embarrassment and diminution in front of others, as this generates hatred and aggression towards you as it may prompt others to interfere and influence your communication with him.
3- Familiarize yourself with always going down to the level of your child and looking into his eyes before you speak to him.
4- If you feel angry at the behavior he did, stop and wait for him to calm down. Refrain from talking to him so that you can talk to him objectively about his behavior and ways to fix him away from your feelings.
5- Follow the principles of good listening and make sure your child follows them as well. Do not interrupt him or rush to judge him or give advice. Just listen and reformulate what you understand to make sure you understand. Listen to him with the same attention and respect that you show when you talk to your friend. If you feel tired and overwhelmed, you will need more effort. Effective listening may seem like a difficult task when your mind and body are exhausted.
6- In order for your child to come back and talk to you always, do not express personal emotions and opinions towards any of what he says such as “I do not care what happened after you to do such and such” or use nouns and words like “This is stupidity I do not believe how you did this” or “You are just your child I don’t know “or talk to him with authority and authority like” I know what is best for you “or” do as I say and everything will be fine. ”
7- Do not ask your child why, but ask what happened.
8- If you know what happened, always be honest and face your child with what you heard or know and do not set a trap for him.
9 – Be sure to praise your child and his actions, even when he tells you about a bad experience, find something good, and praise him. Remember to steer clear of empty praise by using words like you are wonderful and wonderful, but describe what he did and admire him. Like, “I liked what you said/done, this is wonderful.” Despite your lack of success, I did everything you could. “I appreciate your honesty and truth, I am proud of being my child.”
10- Assure your child that you accept it, regardless of what happened or how he acted. It is not his actions and he can always modify them. Put in place a set of solutions that he can follow in the coming times. Also, remember to praise his coming to you and his desire to share with you what is happening with him.